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In February 2017, Leah Gardner attended a community dinner at the LightHouse of San Francisco’s headquarters on Market St. She was one of 20 or so people who sat around a table and listened to Laura Millar, the LightHouse’s new Sexuality Health Programs Coordinator, share her vision of having a contingent at the annual San Francisco Gay Pride Parade.
“I could almost touch the energy in that room,” said Gardner. “About 20 people shared ideas, life experiences and excitement; a true community spirit was tangible.”
Gardner, who is a lesbian and visually impaired, shared she had always had some hesitation about attending the Pride march, but through the LightHouse’s new Sexual Health programs, she was able to tuck away her uneasiness.
“Marching amid the euphoria of Pride, I finally felt part of something purely unique. I was always nervous and rather apprehensive about trying to march in such a gigantic event as a visually impaired person; Laura gave me and so many others a reason to bond together, to feel pride and joy in who we are,” said Gardner.
According to lesbian and disability rights activist Corbett O’Toole, the LightHouse is the first disability organization to partake in the Pride festivities and applauds Millar for her efforts in making the Pride contingent a reality for many.
“Laura’s contingent,” said O’Toole, “showed the disability and LGBT communities that queer rights are inseparable from disability rights. Her decision to offer a contingent for the San Francisco Pride Parade is unprecedented. No mainstream disability organization has made that commitment before.”
In addition to marching in the San Francisco Pride Parade, some of Millar’s past programs included a masturbation workshop with Shauna Farabaugh, a trip to Good Vibrations, where Carol Queen and Andy Duran gave workshop participants a tactile tour of some of the store’s most popular products — explaining how and why someone might use a specific toy — and a dating workshop cleverly titled: World of Sex with Jan McClain.
Millar is bisexual and legally blind. She holds both a Masters in Public Health and a Masters in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. She is also a single parent and believes it is just as important to train parents, teachers, and educators on accessible sexual health practices, as it is to train blind youth.
“I have done workshops and presentations with youth, seniors and everyone in between,” said Millar. “The youngest student so far I’ve had in one of my workshops I believe was 14, and the oldest in their mid-80s.”
But while the events and workshops offered through the LightHouse’s sexual health programs have been well-received by LightHouse students and community members, Millar points to a lack of sex education for young people with disabilities.
“Too often in the blind community, youth will say to me they are tired of not being given the information they need, or treated like young adults. They don’t want to be coddled, and they want a lot more independence,” said Millar.
“My programming,” continued Millar, “fills in a lot of gaps related to sexual health and health literacy. Educating young adults about how to access their sexual health needs, using resources available to them in their community is an important part of being an independent adult.”
The LightHouse’s sexual health program also offers a monthly youth workshop, which Millar shares is similar to what a sighted youth would receive in high school or in an introduction course to sexuality in college.
“Currently, I have a model of a 3D uterus, vulva, and clitoris, which have been very useful to help educate people about their bodies. It is exciting to see a room full of young folks with shared lived experiences — that often feels very isolating — and to be able to give them the opportunity to learn in a manner that is accessible and designed for them.”
As the only full-time employee at a blindness organization that manages sexual health programs, Millar spends a lot of time working with people from across the country.
She explains, “I’ve had a number of one-on-one conversations and meetings with people who are blind and LGBTQ across the country, and have been able to help link them up with services in their area.”
The LightHouse’s CEO, Bryan Bashin, recognized the importance of further diversifying their programs and in 2016, hired Millar.
He said, “The LightHouse knows that there’s more to living a full life than cane skills and screen readers. That’s why when we met Laura, we knew we had found the perfect person to enrich our programming with skills for healthy sexuality, intimacy and relationship building — the stuff that really makes us tick, as people.”
The LightHouse’s sexual health program has built partnerships with the Transgender Law Center, San Francisco Women Against Rape, Positive Resource Center, and the DA’s Special Victims Unit. You can learn more about the LightHouse’s sexual health programs and their other services by visiting their website at: www.lighthouse-sf.org.