Every love story deserves a celebration as unique as the people at its heart. For brides-to-be in the queer community, your wedding day is a declaration of love, identity, and joy. If you’re dreaming of throwing a magical fairytale wedding that reflects every part of who you are, you’re in the right place. Here are tips to create a day worthy of your story.
Set Your Own Fairytale
There isn’t one way to have a fairytale wedding. Instead of replicating traditional scripts, start by reimagining what “fairytale” means to you as a couple. Is it an enchanted forest, a historic castle, or something wonderfully whimsical and modern? Talk openly with your partner about your shared dreams, and then look for venues that match your vision.
Find the Perfect Outfit
For queer brides, wedding attire is a powerful expression of identity. Whether you love voluminous gowns, sharp tuxedos, sparkling jumpsuits, or something unexpected, your perfect look should make you feel seen.
First, seek out queer-owned or affirming boutiques that value inclusivity in sizing, style, and service. Remember that you don’t have to limit yourself to the “women’s” or “men’s” section. Try anything and everything that excites you.
Consider getting custom-made garments for a flawless fit and personal flair. This is also a wonderful opportunity to coordinate your look with your partner. Don’t forget about the theme of your wedding. One of the biggest dress-shopping mistakes is not considering the overall ambience of your big day. Design a dress that matches the magical essence of your fairytale wedding.
Create Magic With Personal Touches
Small details bring big enchantment. Incorporate elements that speak to your shared story and wishes for the future. Here are a few ways to sprinkle fairytale magic throughout your wedding day:
- Write your own vows, plant a unity tree, or include readings and songs by queer artists that mean something to you.
- Use fairy lights, wildflowers, and whimsical centerpieces for a dreamy atmosphere. DIY elements can be both budget-friendly and deeply meaningful.
- Plan a dramatic entrance or a personalized first dance—maybe to a song by one of your favorite queer musicians.
Celebrate With a Community That Loves You
Surround yourself with people who support your love and your identity. This can be your blood family, your chosen family, and anyone in between. Be intentional about your guest list. Safe, affirming vibes are the secret ingredient to any joyful celebration.
The people you choose to work with to make your wedding truly magical also matter. Collaborate with LGBTQ+-owned businesses or local safe-space stores for your decor, catering, accessories, or any other aspect of your big day. Additionally, the officiant you hire makes a big impact on the ceremony. You can ask your close friend or a professional queer-friendly celebrant to help you say, “I do.”
At its heart, a fairytale wedding is about honoring who you are and who you love. This makes it the perfect theme for a queer wedding. Lean into your identity, your creativity, and your dreams. Your love story is already magical, and your wedding should reflect that.