Building connections across generations can be truly rewarding, especially within our LGBTQ+ community. Sometimes, you just need someone who gets it—someone who’s lived through it all and has plenty of wisdom to share. If you’re looking to meet your local LGBTQ community elders, you’ve come to the right place. From practical advice to heartfelt chats, these connections can help you feel more grounded and welcomed in your queer identity. Here are five ways to start making those meaningful connections.
Seek Out Local LGBTQ+ Events and Organizations
If there’s one thing queer elders usually do well, it’s showing up to organized community events. Check out spaces like LGBTQ+ community centers, pride organizations, or even libraries. Many of these places host intergenerational events specifically designed to bring together younger and older folks. Whether it’s a potluck, a film screening, or a book club, these gatherings provide the perfect opportunity for genuine conversations.
Join an LGBTQ+ Mentorship Program
Sometimes, finding a program that pairs younger LGBTQ+ individuals with seasoned elders can help fast-track these connections. Your local LGBTQ+ organizations may offer programs that foster relationships through shared stories and experiences. These setups feel a lot like matchmaking (but, you know, platonically). Imagine sitting across from someone who’s navigated coming out before the internet was even a thing, offering insight and gentle encouragement in ways only they can.
Volunteer for Community Projects
Often, the elders in the LGBTQ+ community who are looking for the same connections as you are the ones who already dedicate countless hours to advocacy, activism, and support work. You can meet them while giving back at the same time. Volunteer opportunities can range from working at a crisis hotline, helping out at events, or assisting in local campaigns. Bonus points if you find a spot where volunteers are multigenerational! Not only will you be contributing to an important cause, but you’ll also get the chance to chat, swap stories, and perhaps be inspired by the drive of older generations.
Attend Fun Activity-Based Meetups
Not all meetups are at bars or coffee houses. If you love being active, you’re sure to find queer elders doing the same thing. Look for hiking groups or local LGBTQ+ sports leagues. You’re sure to find queer elders who can offer you life and fitness advice—both of which are always valuable! If you’re looking to pick up a new activity as a way to meet people, just be sure to arrive prepared. Not all group hosts are ready to fully equip new members, as many of these activities are simply get-togethers. If you’re heading on a hike, bring your own water bottle and snacks, and if you’re joining a quick baseball game, pick out a nice bat beforehand.
Join Online LGBTQ+ Groups (But Don’t Just Lurk!)
The internet connects us across time zones and generations, so why not use it to start meeting LGBTQ+ elders? Facebook, Meetup, and even Reddit have plenty of LGBTQ+ groups you can join. Many elders use these platforms to share advice, nostalgia, and jokes you can borrow. While the internet might not give you face-to-face interactions, it’s still a fantastic place to begin building connections. Just make sure to add to the conversation and, you know, actually interact with people.
No matter which tips you try, you’re bound to meet your local LGBTQ community elders if you put yourself out there. And trust me, you’ll walk away with more than just fresh perspectives—you’ll likely find new friends who feel like family.